Two years have gone by since I started life without my Yalem, my world - my wife, my friend, my sister and my mum's replacement. No single day has gone by without me remembering her.
Once a month, I go to Kensal Green Cemetery, London, just to be by her grave, clearing the area, cleaning the memorial stone.
At the end of October 2016, I travelled to Jerusalem, just to get her Christian Name, Hamelmale Dingil (ሐመልማለ ድንግል), mentioned at the Monastery of Debre Genet Kidane Mihiret (ደብረ ገነት ኪዳነምሕረት), during liturgy. I got more than I bargained for. The Hermits and monks were very kind enough to pray for her soul during the annual “Mahilete Tsige” (ማኅሌተ ጽጌ)፣ the whole night prayers, praying for her soul to rest in peace, and again during liturgy in the morning she was mentioned on several occasions.
On Sunday, 15 January 2017, Yalem was remembered during liturgy in London Debretsion St Mary Ethiopia Orthodox Church, praying for her soul. Friends of Yalem, Hirut Mesfin and Co, prepared a delicious meal, Ethiopia loafs of bread and soft drinks and served the congregation at church yard. Some friends went to her grave and placed fresh flowers.
In the afternoon, friends of Yalem came together at Zeret Restaurant in Camberwell, London and officially launched “YALEM friends support group ‘IDIR’, a traditional mutual support association.